For most of my life I was surrounded by women. Our household comprised of 5 females, my mom, my aunt, 2 sisters and myself. I remember my father only present at suppertime and Sundays. The majority of my cousins were female. I went to an “all girls” elementary school. The only male present was the janitor! In highschool, the boys and girls were segregated. It became coed the last 2 years of my attendance. After high school I started working full time at a company that had all female employees, the only males were the sales team and upper management. A few years later as the workforce changed, most of my immediate bosses were female. I did not have male friends growing up. My only boyfriend became my husband. I had 2 daughters.
The male species was an enigma for me and I had limited admiration for those that touched my life.
When I became single it became my mandate to familiarize myself with the opposite sex. I was attracted to men and liked to socialize with them but was not impressed by them. This was not a healthy attitude.
Books have been written about the male psyche namely, Dr Joyce Brothers wrote ” What Every Woman Should Know About Men”. Then there was the famous book from John Gray, “Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus and Steve Harvey’s, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.”
Reading about it was not enough, I needed to learn first hand.
How was I going to go about this?
When I decided to join the on line dating scene, I realized this would be the perfect way.
I had conversations with many men and met several more in person.
This experience has given me much insight into mens’ behaviours and actions.
Today, they are less of an enigma. I have been able to reason past hurts and expectations with regard to the men in my life.
The conclusion, and I state this without prejudice, is as follows:
“At heart, men are still insecure boys looking for a woman to accept them as they are and bear witness to their life.”
I welcome your comments.